To go slow and be able to let affection grow naturally. To have open, thoughtful, debates about what both of us want from the very start. To talk about everything and anything without shame or fear of judgement. For both of us to recognise that we are both complete people - who both have and haven’t grown up - and that it’s okay. Mutuality. To feel like I am listened to and understood. To feel like I have space to be alone without feeling like that’s an inconvenience to the other person. To feel like I can be with the other person and have the space and time to write too. To feel like the other person can entertain themselves without me being on hand to hurry about and provide entertainment. To feel like the other person is present To have a strong base to build the relationship on. To be able to be small with them, to feel as if I’m allowed to go “off duty” and be the little spoon. To have my boundaries respected. For things to feel like a two way street i...